I’m not sad today, but there is something I really would like to share. In this mindless world right now, it is so easy to get around those who do not want to take responsibility for their own actions.
Now this thought stems from a, well, I thought, new friendship. Yet in our world, we need to be guided by our gut feelings. Listen to Spirit, our guides and Angels. There are many who I believe have the best intentions but are not mindful of those intentions. They become possessive, and then demeaning towards those who have shown them the most compassion.
Life is and should not be this way. We are all free to make our own choices on this life journey. Even if you change your mind a thousand times in a day. Every moment is a learning experience. No one may make you feel bad about the thoughts you have or if you want to change the way you feel about a certain situation. You can not tell someone that they are not to feel the way they feel. If one is truly mindful, they come towards the situation with compassion and allow others to feel the way they do, but we do not make choices for others. Nor do we allow them to harm us.
I have allowed others to make me feel bad about my thoughts or feelings. I may change my feelings and mind several times a day. Nothing is set in stone!! You have no right to make someone feel badly if they are feeling differently from what you believe. And you allow no one to harm you by their words or lack of knowledge.
I have a right just as you do to say what I think, but when you attack someone for their feelings, which have not caused you harm, you need to become aware of your reactions. There is a reason that we communicate without judgement. Just because you feel differently doesn’t give you the right to be uncompassionate. When someone triggers us, it is because we have a memory we have suppressed that is trying to heal.
No one may make you feel badly. Only you can allow someone to make you feel the way you do. I have learned that sometimes there is no use in reasoning with those who want to blame or attack instead of listening with their heart. We can listen with compassion and know when it is time to stay and be present, or when it is time to walk away.
“When love and compassion are present in us, and we send them outward, then that is truly prayer.” Thich Nhat Hanh
I pray for those who I have had to walk away from, and I hope I helped them to become aware or those things inside that they need to embrace and heal for themselves.
“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” Thich Nhat Hanh
I learn as I go. I want to learn the lessons and grow from them. Even when I am attacked for my compassion, my awareness, or when I am hurt by those, I thought was a new friend. I learn from them. I learn how to allow myself to grow from the experiences.
There would have been a time I would question myself, but I don’t do that anymore, and I question what the others are going through. That is compassion, being mindful and aware.
Life is learning every day and being excited about those lessons. I’ll leave you with these last thoughts.
“Love is the capacity to take care, to protect, to nourish. If you are not capable of generating that kind of energy toward yourself — if you are not capable of taking care of yourself, or nourishing yourself, or protecting yourself — it is very difficult to take care of another person.” Thich Nhat Hanh
It may be sad to have to walk away from another human being, but when they do not want to be mindful of their own actions and want to blame or strike out at someone else, it is time to move away gently and allow them to find their own way to self compassion.
Love is healing and powerful. Yet is can be used like anything else to do harm. I am not perfect, nor do I want to be. I am ever changing, evolving, listening, learning, becoming aware, protecting, honoring, respecting, creating, becoming.
There are many types of loves, and you may experience many different ones in a day.
I am breathing in; 1, 2, 3, 4, Hold, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, I am breathing out 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8. I am aware of my breath. Repeat. Slow down become aware, mindful, compassionate. Or you may throw away the very thing you wanted.